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INTJ and Dating

In romance, people with the Architect personality type approach things the way they do most situations: they create a well-designed plan with precise expectations and the right end goal. Here, the goal is a healthy long-term relationship. They rarely fall head over heels in love in a way that involves spontaneous passion and romance. Architects find potential partners who meet certain established criteria, break the dating process down into measurable steps, then complete the plan with great precision.

In a purely rational world, this would be foolproof. However, it ignores important factors that Architects are likely to easily dismiss, such as human nature.

While there are plenty of traits that make INTJs awesome people, we’re We think with our heads — not our hearts — which can be frustrating when the bullsh*t, so don’t expect any mind games during the dating stage.

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The Intuitive Realist: The INTJ

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So much of the dating process goes against our wiring, which is why we get so frustrated and many of us just resign ourselves to single life.

INTJs are not known for placing a lot of emphasis on romance. We embody the suppression of emotion, not the expression of it. We can be so matter-of-fact and hard-headed that it’s difficult to imagine us doing something as frivolous as falling in love. At the same time, we want a relationship. We know that we’re pretty darned outstanding as relationship material, just too awkward to play the dating game.

Is there a way around this conundrum?

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Nevertheless, they remain among the rarest and most interesting human beings in the world worth evaluating and writing about. An INTJ is likely someone you knew at one point or another in your life. She is the friend who warned you not to make a drunken, impulsive decision shortly before you made it, anyway.

Wikipedia says that INTJs hate social rituals, forever frustrating my friend as I explain in a voice ten decibels too loud the anomaly in her view of dating: that her​.

But INTJs seek long term, happy relationships the same as any other personality type. They just do it a little differently than most people. Despite their overly rational nature, INTJs are also idealistic perfectionists. This can be a major problem when it comes to relationships. An INTJ will go into a new relationship with a clear fantasy of how the relationship will be, and will become bitterly disappointed when that fantasy is shattered.

INTJs need to learn to ease up on the people around them, and on themselves, and to accept that nothing and nobody can ever be perfect. This can leave their partner feeling very abandoned and unloved, when the INTJ really just has no idea of how to help. INTJs are more likely to show their affection through spending quality time with their partner or doing things for them. INTJs are probably the most solitary of the personality types. This can result in INTJs becoming very isolated. Even if they think otherwise at some points in their lives, INTJs do still need social contact.

9 Unmistakable Signs You’re Dating An INTJ

It might not be easy to be in a relationship with an INTJ — the most independent personality type. If their partners fail to live up to these standards, they can become very critical and judgmental. An older INTJ will usually begin to pay more attention to relationships and may somewhat soften up. Demanding to express their feelings will likely annoy them or cause them to distance themselves from their partners even more.

When it comes to relationships, INTJs look for supportive, intellectually stimulating partners who appreciate their intelligence and understand the importance of their work.

Just an INFP and INTJ tumblering along. It can be frustrating for the partner of an INFP to know that there is a rich inner atmosphere, but that.

By Dr. However extensive their thinker T — feeler F differences, this type pairing can actually enjoy surprisingly good compatibility. In this post, we will explore why this is the case, as well as some of the common challenges they encounter. Similarly, young INFPs may find themselves drawn to the strength, charisma, and adventurous spirit of extraverts. More often than not, their love story unfolds gradually over time, as they discover intersections in their beliefs, interests and values.

Similarly, INTJs appreciate that INFPs are not only willing to entertain their complex thoughts, but seem genuinely interested in, and capable of understanding, much of what they have to say. Another advantage of this type pairing is its strong moral rapport, with both valuing things like loyalty, integrity, family, and education.

INTP-INTJ Relationship

Ultimately, you must be willing to do some work to win the love of an INFP. In fact, INFPs sometimes have the habit of acting indifferent towards potential mates, making it impossible for you to flirt with them. Is this more than a fling? I imagine that engaging a new person of interest would be really hard for a male INFP because of the social pressure that dictates that men must initiate romance. As private as we may seem about love, we are incredibly affectionate when we do fall in love.

Why dating is so annoying and frustrating for us and why we feel so hopeless about finding anyone. I’m an INFJ, but INTJ is my favorite type. I’m.

Different Emotional Strategies One of the biggest ways in which these two personality types deviate from one another is in how they deal with their emotions. They tend to see all emotions as irrational and focus on concrete and sensory details they can more easily understand. This often manifests as our frustration.

But INTJs are more likely to ignore emotions and focus more on their ideas and concepts. In turn, this can make INTJs seem particularly cold or aloof rather than frustrated when they encounter a particularly emotional person. What Drives Emotional Satisfaction The next biggest difference between these two types is in how they derive emotional satisfaction from different events.

ISTJs are very coordinated and logical people and enjoy agreements and commitments that are fulfilled by both parties. They tend to take their word very seriously, as they do the words of others. INTJs care less about striking up agreements with people and repeating the same commitments over and over. ISTJs enjoy focusing on commitments and promises made by others and look at things in a factual and often binary way.

For this reason, ISTJs will often write letters outlining complaints or follow procedures to the letter when it comes to solving a problem or managing interpersonal conflict. On the flipside, INTJs tend to be much more intellectual and abstract. This can cause them to inadvertently hurt the feelings of their companions or friends, but it does have the benefit of getting to the heart of the problem much more quickly.

They can take personal words or verbal conflict quite personally and will struggle with conflict that is brought out into the open.

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